Do you think you know what the secret to a happy marriage is? Well, according to a study, the secret to a happy marriage is kissing, saying ‘I love you’ 10 times a week, and going on three dates a month. I’m sure if you said ‘I love you’ more than 10 times a week it won’t be a problem. *smile*
The study, which looked at 1,000 married Americans between January 30th and February 9th, also found that 10 deep and meaningful conversations and three surprise romantic gestures each month are also key to a happy relationship.
That’s not all. Going on two vacations a year and having three shared hobbies are also part of the requirements for wedded bliss. Many Americans also think that trust, being able to accept each other’s faults, and being able to say sorry are key to a harmonious relationship.
A spokesman for OnePoll.com, the global market researchers who commissioned the research said, “Anyone can get married, but it takes a lot of commitment and effort to make your marriage a perfect one. If you are not prepared to put the work in and take the rough with the smooth, you are going to struggle to find that ideal.”
Here are some other ingredients for the perfect marriage according to the study:
- 7 cuddles a week
- sex three times a week
- 2 drinks together a month
- 3 arguments together a month
- cuddle up in front of the TV together 6 times a month
- sharing the household and parental duties
- ending an argument before going to bed
- being best friends
- having a sense of humor
- supporting each other
The spokesman also said that it’s the small gestures that can help couples retain their closeness and intimacy. If you lose the closeness and intimacy, your marriage can feel like it’s in a rut.
Can you guess how many Americans consider themselves to be happily married? Well, if you guessed 92% you would be correct. Almost a quarter of those who say they aren’t happily married say that it’ simply because they’ve grown apart from their partner. Another 17% say it’s due to financial problems. Not having much in common and spending little time together were also reasons that were given.
I personally think respecting your partner is an important ingredient in a happy marriage.